21 Comments
User's avatar
Tom and Linda Norris's avatar

I know what you mean! Hang in there.

Tom

Expand full comment
Elizabeth Beggins's avatar

You, too. Here...a virtual cup of tea.

Expand full comment
prue batten's avatar

I love that. 'We see what we want to see...'

As an aside, I stitch hearts for a charity called www.1000hearts.com.au It's amazing how uplifting it can be to hold a little heart in your hand - a pocket hug.

Expand full comment
Elizabeth Beggins's avatar

Prue, I am smitten with 1000hearts! I don't know if there are Heartists here in the States, but I'm going to see what I can find out. Thanks so much for sharing that!

Expand full comment
darrell parsons's avatar

Makes me smile too.

Expand full comment
Janet S's avatar

❤️❤️

Expand full comment
Carolyn's avatar

Perfect! Grief, sleeplessness, fatigue-these too shall pass with time. Feel for you guys-

Expand full comment
Barry P Osborne's avatar

Yay Jim.... I think for the most part Jim is correct. We see what we want to see....but....maybe with the slightest of word modifications..we see what we "need" to see.....

Expand full comment
Elizabeth Beggins's avatar

Yes...and no. I 100% get your point, Barry, and think it's spot on in the sense that we are given what we need. But, I took this experience to mean that we also create our own realities by the way we choose to see things. We can see joy. Or not. The choice is ours.

Expand full comment
Charles Yonkers's avatar

I'm under the influence of Carlo Rovelli, a renown physicist and author of The Order of Time and Helgoland wherein he tries to explain quantum physics. He would agree with "you see what you want to see," literally, I think. It seems the brain manages what we see, and the eye is simply a vector from which the brain receives information that it already knows or doesn't and creates a feedback loop into the flow of molecules already buzzing in and around us which produces a story that we assemble from biology and space into tell ourselves. [Check me out, Carlo, but I think that's what I understood from your books and Eliazabeth's experience...which seems to confirm your analysis...and Jim's.

Expand full comment
Elizabeth Beggins's avatar

I love this line of thinking, Charlie. It has a way of feeling expansive - as if to say we can create the realities we want. That runs so counter to how it actually feels to operate in the world that it ends up seeming like so much hocus-pocus, but then again, what if? And, why not? I will check out Carlo Rovelli - appreciate the recommendation and the comment.

Expand full comment
CATHERINE RICHARDS's avatar

The shortest-ever route to finding joy

I'd like to try and hold onto that little heart.

This could get tangly, as Charlie so aptly demonstrates, it's some kind of hard data science and has been given the deep dive forever-the mind and the heart

The differences between want and need.

Holding your breath waiting for things to shift.

We see what we want to see.

As always, thank you.

Expand full comment
Elizabeth Beggins's avatar

One of the traps into which we consistently fall, I think, is that of resisting our potential, thinking too small, believing what the world wants us to believe rather than seeing ourselves in a new paradigm. It's mind blowing, and I'm not skilled at it. But, I love that the concepts are out there whenever I'm ready.

Expand full comment
Meanwhile, Elsewhere's avatar

Photographer Dewitt Jones played on the phrase "I'll believe it when I see it." He said being a photographer, he is always looking for the beautiful, the surprising, the telling. And his catch phrase is: "I'll see it when I believe it." I will find the beauty, or the redemption, or the hope; but the discovery begins with the belief that it is there, somewhere. I believe that this relates to what you wrote; and I see it, although it's a little fuzzy...

Expand full comment
Elizabeth Beggins's avatar

That is very much how I operate in the world, Stewart (when I can get out from under the weight of myself), and I'm delighted to be introduced to a fellow subscriber. I am looking forward to getting to know Dewitt Jones a bit better, including watching his 2018 Ted talk. I'm very much in favor of surrounding myself with positivity. Thanks, Stewart!

Expand full comment
Kathy Penney's avatar

I see a bird dropping. 🙃

Expand full comment
Elizabeth Beggins's avatar

Ha! Keeping it real, right? Lumpy hearts are not always ready to be seen. Thanks for reading, Kathy.

Expand full comment
prue batten's avatar

I think there are. But if not let me know, 1000 hearts had its inception in my hometown (a lady called Sarah who decided the world needs more empathy) and we have a seriously active group of stitchers. We can send some your way.

But there's a template from the organisation and PDF of the leaflets and there's a shop on Etsy run by the charity with packs of pre-cut hearts. It's such a 'feel good' story.

Expand full comment
roe squire's avatar

thank you for the reminder.

Expand full comment
Nathalie Choo-Foo's avatar

Messages from the universe ❤️

I just discovered you from Office Hours. I have enjoyed what I read so far. I have some catching up to do. New subscriber here. 😉

P.S. I love cream in my tea. Sometimes even with a dollop of honey. 😋

Expand full comment
Elizabeth Beggins's avatar

Thanks for letting me know how you found your way here, Nathalie -- and fist bumps for being another cream-lover!

Expand full comment