OH and I leave the odd love note here and there when one of us is going somewhere or just because we want to support each other - not a lot but enough to make it mean something. And my husband is so very very good at writing the perfect poem on birthday and Christmas cards. The kind that one has to keep in a pile wrapped up with ribbon in a special box.
But I had never thought of notes to defuse a situation. I'm taking it on board. We've been together for 47 years and such a technique might be fun (and constructive) to introduce.
I should also say I grew up with Victor Borge and Dad and I shared such laughs when listening to his 45's on Dad's radiogram. Thank you for the link - that bought back some lovely memories.
"Enough to make it mean something." Yes, I think that is a critical consideration. It can't become so routine that it no longer seems special, but it only becomes a tradition after the behavior repeats itself for a long enough period of time. Forty-seven years -- !!! (Can you *hear* those exclamation points?). Congratulations and well done.
Your isolation assignment without communication sounds so good.... first of all I'm congratulating you on that and praying for your body and mind and spirit to have a blast. Your blog is humorous and sincere and wonderful. As you often do, you dangled a line in which I found the perfect answer.. " it allows laughter to take some of the sting out of reality." Amen
Thanks for sending good retreat juju, Barry. It was a wonderful experience, even though the midweek nor'easter meant our opportunities to spend time roaming the island were severely curtailed (80+ people indoors doesn't have quite the same effect). Still, there was plenty of laughter working its special kind of bonding magic. :)
So clever. So sensible.
OH and I leave the odd love note here and there when one of us is going somewhere or just because we want to support each other - not a lot but enough to make it mean something. And my husband is so very very good at writing the perfect poem on birthday and Christmas cards. The kind that one has to keep in a pile wrapped up with ribbon in a special box.
But I had never thought of notes to defuse a situation. I'm taking it on board. We've been together for 47 years and such a technique might be fun (and constructive) to introduce.
I should also say I grew up with Victor Borge and Dad and I shared such laughs when listening to his 45's on Dad's radiogram. Thank you for the link - that bought back some lovely memories.
"Enough to make it mean something." Yes, I think that is a critical consideration. It can't become so routine that it no longer seems special, but it only becomes a tradition after the behavior repeats itself for a long enough period of time. Forty-seven years -- !!! (Can you *hear* those exclamation points?). Congratulations and well done.
Mostly all beer and skittles too. He's my rock and I guess I'm his as well.
Your isolation assignment without communication sounds so good.... first of all I'm congratulating you on that and praying for your body and mind and spirit to have a blast. Your blog is humorous and sincere and wonderful. As you often do, you dangled a line in which I found the perfect answer.. " it allows laughter to take some of the sting out of reality." Amen
Thanks for sending good retreat juju, Barry. It was a wonderful experience, even though the midweek nor'easter meant our opportunities to spend time roaming the island were severely curtailed (80+ people indoors doesn't have quite the same effect). Still, there was plenty of laughter working its special kind of bonding magic. :)